Adult Raisingurl Sierra

Sierra.. my gurl!!! I really love her. She also graduated High School. I think I did more talking to her than any other gurl in the group. She had some anger issues that we would always talk about. I would call her at home, way after the group was over for the season to see how she was doing. I go up to Walmart to see how she’s doing. She’s the type that I had to look in the eye to ask questions, over the phone she could tell me anything. I love her and I pray that God continue to work on her in many areas of her life. She’s still holding down her job she started August 29, 2014 Praise God


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My Adult Raisingurls.. Daijah and Nell

One of my first Raisingurls. They were in my group for 4-5 years. These are my gurls!! They both graduated from High School in 2012. They’re both working, and will be starting school again. I am so proud of them. They have no children and their focus is on personal growth!

Daijah ( top )  

Nell ( my niece.. bottom) Best Friends

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My all grown Raisingurl Alexes :)

Wow, here it is 2015 and I was just looking at my Raisingurls who are all almost grown women. One of them has even gotten married!!!! I cannot believe time has passed so fast since I started my group 8 years ago. I’m sitting here like wow where did time go? I keep up with all of them through Facebook and gatherings. I am so proud of them.

Here is Alexes!!! She’s married now!!! I cannot believe she was just in High School, then went to College for Pre-Med… now a wife living in Bahrain with her husband!!!

Praise God


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Raisingurls photos

Photos that I never uploaded from my Raisingurls Meetings

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My Raisingurls growing up

It amazes me how time flies. My Raisingurls are growing up. Many are graduating, have families, and jobs. I am so proud of them. Here are some of them as they go from gurls to Women.

Day Day and Ganell Home coming…. 2013 Graduates

tasia, ciera, anna

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9-Year-Old Joshua Smith’s Lemonade Stand Raises $3K

9-Year-Old Joshua Smith’s Lemonade Stand Raises $3K For The City of Detroit

He came, he saw, he conquered. Joshua Smith had a one goal: to raise money to help the city of Detroit. In less than a week of selling lemonade, other beverages, and popcorn, the youngster raised a respectable $3,000. Given the fact that his most expensive product was only $2, Smith did a pretty good job.

The 9-year-old told his family that he wanted to do his part to aid the city, so they put up $100 to buy the items which he sold in front of his family home. Once he garnered national attention, Smith received donations from as far as South Africa. “I heard the city was in crisis because the city is broke and I was really upset,” he said.

In honor of his achievement, the city council rewarded smith with an award for outstanding achievement. He also received a $2,000 college scholarship from the Rosa L. Parks Scholarship Foundation.

Even with what he earned, Smith has hardly put a dent in Detroit’s $100 million deficit, but the fact that he chose to take a stand and actually followed through is what makes his story so admirable.

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God is SERIOUS (about forgiving)

I’m sitting here reading my Bible tonight, and came across a few interesting examples of how serious God is about forgiving others. This is one of the reasons why I love reading the stories in the bible because you get to see how God is and how he interacted with REAL PEOPLE from the Bible. The stories are REAL, and not only that, its written in words that WE ALL can understand. All you have to do is VISION it in your head, or do what I do, with each word I read, I “video tape it” and make up people to play the parts.
I want you all to read the Scriptures below and actually visualize it in your mind. God is VERY SERIOUS about forgiving others. Someone can do something so wrong in our minds, and that’s fine, BUT GOD MAKES IT CLEAR, that you can go to work, play with your family and pets, go out to dinner with your friends, make love to your husbands and wives, cook dinner, and enjoy all the good things in LIFE. BUT FORGIVING, is something God takes seriously. So read this and be VERY AFRAID if you have not forgiven someone. THIS IS NOT FOR YOU, if you can/will/and have NO problems doing so, but for others, READ AND TAKE THIS AS A WARNING.
The Parable of the Unmerciful Servant

 21 Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive someone who sins against me? Up to seven times?”  22 Jesus answered, “I tell you, not seven times, but seventy-seven times.[a]

   23 “Therefore, the kingdom of heaven is like a king who wanted to settle accounts with his servants. 24 As he began the settlement, a man who owed him ten thousand bags of gold[b] was brought to him. 25 Since he was not able to pay, the master ordered that he and his wife and his children and all that he had be sold to repay the debt.

   26 “The servant fell on his knees before him. ‘Be patient with me,’ he begged, ‘and I will pay back everything.’ 27 The servant’s master took pity on him, canceled the debt and let him go.

   28 “But when that servant went out, he found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred silver coins.[c] He grabbed him and began to choke him. ‘Pay back what you owe me!’ he demanded.

   29 “His fellow servant fell to his knees and begged him, ‘Be patient with me, and I will pay you back.’

   30 “But he refused. Instead, he went off and had the man thrown into prison until he could pay the debt. 31 When the other servants saw what had happened, they were greatly distressed and went and told their master everything that had happened.

   32 “Then the master called the servant in. ‘You wicked servant,’ he said, ‘I canceled all that debt of yours because you begged me to. 33 Shouldn’t you have had mercy on your fellow servant just as I had on you?’ 34 In anger his master handed him over to the jailers to be tortured, until he should pay back all he owed.

   35 “This is how my heavenly Father will treat each of you unless you forgive a brother or sister from your heart.”

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Don’t let pressure get you down!

Hello Raisingurls!!

 I hope that you all are doing well in school, and that you are being the Leaders that I have talked about several times in our meetings. I have seen and spoken with many of you in the last 2 months and even sent a letter to one of my Raisingurls to encourage her.

I have been reading a lot of teen suicides, and so I wanted to write to you about that. I understand that being a teen is hard, with the pressures in school to complete projects, the pressure at home with your family. Pressure from your female friends, as well as pressure from boys. But understand you have to find a balance in your life. Dont allow anyone to put pressure on you. Know yourself, and know what you like. Know what you will put up with and know what you wont put up with. People sometimes don’t realize how much stress and pressure they can put on you. But at some point you have got to step back and say to them……….hold up…..wait a minute.

Pressure is something that will never go away, no matter how old you are, but YOU can control it. Here are a few examples that are  TRUE in my life. I hear these types of pressures everyday from people, and I will show you a way to SHUT IT DOWN ON THE SPOT! I work for Walmart. People are always asking me to “hook them up” or give them a discount” or try to get out of paying the real price. Here is how the conversation will start:

Me: Hello, how are you?

Customer: Fine, aaaaaaaaaaaaaa, can you give me a discount, this stuff cost too much!

Me: (smiling but looking serious and giving them direct eye contact) Why would I give you a discount, so that I could lose my job on the spot, and you would go to YOURS in the morning? Does that make sense to you boo?

Customer: Laughs…… and say…… they won’t know!

Me: They may not know, but I KNOW!

You have to talk to people in a way that it wont offend them, but also speak in a way in which they know you MEAN BUSINESS.

Boys can put pressure on gurls as well. Here is an example

Boy: Hey, what are you doing later?

You: Nothing, going home to watch my little sister while my parents are at work.

Boy: Well, can I come over to play WII with you?

You: My momma don’t play that?

Boy: Well, how would she know?

You: She doesn’t have to know, because I’m telling you NO, and besides I don’t want any trouble with my parents, because they don’t play!

Boy:  alright, talk to you later.

Raisingurls you have to really “Boss Up” and stand your ground and not allow anyone to put pressure on you. Know whats right and what’s wrong in your life, and follow that voice inside of you…..that’s God.

Children, do what your parents tell you. This is only right. ‘Honor your father and mother’ is the first commandment that has a promise attached to it, namely, ‘so you will live well and have a long life’” (Ephesians 6:1-3 NIV).

Auntie ZZ

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Hey Raisingurls!! I take it that you all are reading my blog entries. I’ve been posting them on your walls and it seems that you and your friends have been reading. We are up to 114 hits!!! I’m very happy about that. 

Here is an article I found on GOSSIP.(It’s my life) Do you really understand how GOSSIP affects the person you are gossiping about? Why do people GOSSIP? The bible says: 

Proverbs 11:13 – “A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret.” (NIV)

To feel superior

When people are feeling bad about themselves, they sometimes think they’ll feel better if there were someone worse off than they are. It’s like, it’s okay being near the bottom, as long as they’re not actually on the bottom. The easiest way for them to make sure someone else is on the bottom is to make up a rumor that puts him or her there.

To feel like part of the group

If everybody else is gossiping or spreading rumors, you might feel you have to do the same thing in order to fit in. When you’re “in on the secret,” you’re in the group. Unfortunately, the person who the gossip or rumor is about is usually left out of the group for the same reason that you’re let into it.

For attention

When you know a secret that nobody knows, or are the first person in your group to hear a rumor, it can make you the center of attention. A rumor or piece of gossip is sometimes like money; telling it to people is like buying their attention, if only for a few minutes. You might even save up a really scandalous rumor, waiting for the right moment to blab so you get the maximum amount of attention
for it.

For control or power

Certain people always want to be in control and at the top of the ladder. You probably know at least one person who needs to be the leader, say what goes, and make all the decisions. When people are at the top of the popularity scale, or are determined to climb higher, one way they do this is by reducing the “status” of another person. Spreading rumors and gossip is one of the main ways people reduce another person’s status, especially among girls. It’s like one caveman beating up another caveman for control of the tribe…only it’s done with cruel whispers and petty remarks instead of fists.

Out of jealousy or a need for revenge

If you’re jealous of someone’s looks, popularity, or money, you might gossip about that person in order to hurt him or her. If you feel that someone’s done something bad to you, or deserves to be hurt, making up a rumor might satisfy your sense of justice.

                                               How to stop  GOSSIP!!!!!

Make the rumor stop with you
If you decide that the rumor is hurtful in some way, make a stand. Decide that you don’t want to take part in spreading it. Others may continue to circulate the gossip, but you’ve made a personal choice to stay out of it. Chances are that the rumor will die out much more quickly than if you had joined the buzz.

Don’t be an audience
When someone comes to you with a rumor, try not to be an audience. This person may want to hurt somebody, or may be after attention or power. It can be hard to resist hearing some juicy dish, especially if you’re bored, but make an effort to say, “I’m not interested in hearing mean gossip, thanks.”

Just like with physical bullying, there are no “innocent bystanders” with hurtful rumors. Hearing and reacting to the rumor, and letting it continue, makes you almost as responsible for its damage as the person who started it. Instead, don’t provide another pair of ears for the rumor-starter. If he isn’t getting the reaction or attention he’s seeking, he’ll be less likely to do it in the future.

Be a peacemaker
If one of your friends wants to hurt someone else by spreading lies or rumors, speak up. Let your friend know that this isn’t the right thing to do. If you need to, find another friend who feels the same way and talk to the others together. If rumors are getting out of control and someone is being made a real victim, get a counselor or teacher involved.

Respect others’ privacy
If you don’t want other people talking about the personal things in your life, don’t do it to others. When you hear personal information about a classmate or friend, try to keep it to yourself, and don’t worry about whether it’s true or not. If you respect people’s privacy, they’ll be more likely to do the same for you.

Get the facts
Most of the time, you should try to ignore gossip and rumors. But if you hear a rumor about something important, and it doesn’t sound too crazy or far-fetched, ask a teacher, guardian, or parent what they think. If it’s a modern legend that you find interesting, you can try searching on the Web to see if it’s been proven fake or not. But remember not to believe everything you read, even on the Web!

Take this test to see if you’re a gossiper?

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Why are you staring?

Raisingurls have you ever went to the mall with your friends, and as you walk by you feel a group of gurls staring at you? You stare back because you don’t know what they’re looking at? Well, guess what? They don’t want to pick a fight with you,  it could be that they like what you have on. They may like your shoes, or the way you have your hair styled, maybe its the accessories that you are wearing, or perhaps its the pretty gloss you have on your lips. Don’t get caught up in the hype of getting into it with other gurls just by them staring or looking at you. They may simply like your style.
Being a teen is hard work. Everyday it seems as if you have to prove something to someone. Just be yourself. Be in position to give other gurls compliments when they are looking cute. If you see something someone is wearing and you like it, don’t hold back a compliment, tell her “she’s rocking those shoes”.
Whatever you do, don’t let you friends geek you up to make something out of nothing. Smile at the person who is staring at you or your friends, they may let you know how much they like your style!!
 Proverbs 3:17 17 Her ways are pleasant ways,
       and all her paths are peace.

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